Our female guided masturbation instructions suitable for all women and vulva-owners, regardless of kink.
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13th January 2023 – Productivity Play
I think we can all agree that sometimes play sessions start because we’re procrastinating, bored, or disengaged with whatever we’re doing. There’s nothing inherently wrong with this! That said, sometimes it’s important to avoid procrastination and actually complete the tasks we have in front of us. Today’s instructions are about using play as a reward…
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9th January 2023 – Scents and Self-Care
Several recent instructions have incorporated or suggested the use of different sensual items to create an erotic atmosphere. Today’s instructions will focus on scents, particularly incense and scented candles. You won’t need much, just a source for a sensual smell of your choice and the privacy required to enjoy that smell in a calming play…
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7th January 2023 – Light Dimming Play
I’m sure we can all agree that how dark a space is can have a big impact on what a play session feels like, regardless of whether playing on your own or with others. Today’s session is about exploring specifically the visual part of sensory deprivation, not through a blindfold, but through dimming your lights.…
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6th January 2023 – Introduction to Edging
We’ve explored elements of edging and teasing before on DEI, but today we’re going to focus on it. If you’re unaware, edging is the act of bringing yourself close to orgasm and then backing off to prolong your play session. For many people, edging repeatedly can lead to more intense orgasms when they finally climax.…
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4th January 2023 – Rules: Exclusivity Session
With rules-based sessions, I don’t tell you exactly how to play, I just give a few key guidelines to follow. Today’s session is all about control and experimentation. Instead of simply playing however you like, there are three simple rules.
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3rd January 2023 – Breathing
Today’s session is about breathing, not breath play. Whilst breath play is usually about limiting your breathing, which can be dangerous and should not be done alone, today’s session is about synchronising your breathing with your play instead.
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2nd January 2023 – Cosy Play
One of the best parts about the winter months is escaping the cold by wrapping up in blankets, putting on a movie and curling up on the sofa with a mug of something warm. Today’s session is about carving out some ‘me time’ to get comfy and have a relaxing orgasm.
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1st January 2023 – New Year, New Toy
Today’s instructions are split into two parts. Part 1 is to find a new toy for you to play with (suggestions are included) and Part 2 is to play with that toy once you have it.
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26th June 2021 – Armchair Play
Today’s session is about playing in one of these very exposed and explicit positions, increasing the dirtiness of your play in the process. All you’ll need is an armchair.
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9th May 2021 – Passion Playlist
Today’s theme is using a sex or masturbation playlist (extra points if you have one of your own) to add a random element to your play. Every time the song changes, you will increase the vibration of your toy, slowly building up the intensity and pleasure before you orgasm.
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4th April 2021 – Timed Clit Play
Today’s instructions focus on using different clit play techniques in a timed setting, pushing you to try new things until you discover the one that you enjoy most.
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3rd March 2021 – Rules: Anal and Impact Play
Today’s themes are anal play and impact play, two kinks worth exploring and experimenting with, especially when combined together.
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2nd April 2021 – Kegel Exercises
Whilst they’re not inherently sexual, kegel exercises are an important part of maintaining your body’s strength and keeping yourself comfortable as you get older. In short, they’re a great habit to get into! Today’s instructions are simple – complete some kegel exercises before you play.
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1st April 2021 – Phone Sex
Phone sex with a partner can be incredibly hot, especially if you have the space to be comfortable and loud when you’re talking. Muffled moans over the phone and dirty talk not only amplify your pleasure whilst you play, they also serve as great practice for when you want to whisper sweet nothings during physical…
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31st March 2021 – Introduction to Multiple Orgasms
Today is not about having three orgasms in five minutes. Today is about experimenting with your pleasure and finding how you respond to post-orgasm stimulation; it’s about exploring whether having multiple orgasms is possible for you and if so, how to achieve it.
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29th March 2021 – Rules: Glass Toys and Aphrodisiacs
Today, we’re trying out something a little more specific, combining glass toys with aphrodisiacs to create a different masturbation experience.
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28th March 2021 – Hourly Tasks
Today’s instructions are a little more free-form. Instead of step-by-step instructions, I will be giving you a list of tasks to complete throughout the day. You can complete them in any order.
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27th March 2021 – Cowgirl
The best way to get to know your body is through solo play. This solo play exploration includes trying new positions, which is why today’s instructions are about trying a specific sensation – cowgirl. You won’t need much, just a large enough toy to ride.
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26th March 2021 – Rules: In the Rain
Previously, we’ve tried masturbating in the sun with the warmth against your skin. Today, we’re going for the opposite with some solo play in the rain.
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24th March 2021 – Rules: Dressed Up with Porn for Women
Today is about embracing your sexuality by getting dressed up and watching some female-focused porn. I’ve listed some porn sites you can try (not sponsored) if you don’t know where to start.
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23rd March 2021 – Introduction to Nipplegasms
Today’s instructions are all about nipple play and nipplegasms. Wait! Before you jump into experimenting, remember that if you start to become tired or frustrated, you can stop and just enjoy a regular play session. Don’t feel pressured to try and achieve a nipplegasm when most people can’t.
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22nd March 2021 – Rules: Self-Care Session
It’s Monday. Time to look after yourself. As usual with rules-based instructions, I won’t be telling you exactly how to play. Instead, I’ll just be laying out some rules for you to follow during your play session, wherever and however you choose to enjoy it.
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21st March 2021 – Sexting
Today’s instructions are about using your imagination and writing skills to add a written element to your play. Sexting is great fun and an exceptional way of exploring your sexual kinks and fantasies in a healthy, non-committal manner.
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19th March 2021 – Sexercise #3
So, here is a quick, beginner-friendly home workout routine. The only catch is that between each exercise, you should spend 60 seconds pausing and playing. Working up a sweat can have a big impact on libido and sexual pleasure. Why not see how it works for you whilst simultaneously getting fitter!
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18th March 2021 – Rules: Standing Orgasm and Sex Toys
We’re keeping things simple today. As usual with rules-based instructions, I won’t be telling you exactly how to play. Instead, I’ll just be laying out some rules for you to follow during your play session, wherever and however you choose to enjoy it.
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17th March 2021 – Body Painting
Today’s instructions are about embracing your beauty and creativity through body painting. Body painting is a great way of expressing yourself and your sexuality. Plus, by forcing you to take your time, body painting can add a sensual and teasing aspect to the way that you play.
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16th March 2021 – Hysterical Literature
Hysterical Literature was a video art project that began in 2012. In it, a variety of women are recorded reading a book of their choice, aloud. As they read, they are stimulated with a vibrator which slowly increases in intensity until their words are cracking and they orgasm. Today’s instructions are about recreating these videos…
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15th March 2021 – Masturbation and Self-Care
Ever since I started this project, I have emphasised the importance of viewing masturbation as an act of self-care and I stand by it. That said, masturbation is not the only form of self-care you can engage in, which is what we’ll be exploring in tandem with our solo play, today.
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14th March 2021 – Mother’s Day Relaxation
Happy Mother’s Day! To celebrate, today’s instructions are about relaxation and self-love. It can be difficult to find time in our busy schedules to just sit back and empty our minds. For mothers, it’s even more difficult but if there’s any day where you can carve some time out for yourself, it’s Mother’s Day.
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13th March 2021 – Rules: Mirror and Nipple Play
We’re keeping things simple today. As usual with rules-based instructions, I won’t be telling you exactly how to play. Instead, I’ll just be laying out some rules for you to follow during your play session, wherever and however you choose to enjoy it.
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11th March 2021 – Film and TV Challenge
I discovered a great website the other day named DrinkWiki (not sponsored). It’s a website with drinking games for loads of popular TV shows and films, including a number of my favourites. For today’s instructions, your task is to play one of these drinking games except instead of drinking alcohol, pause the film or show…
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10th March 2021 – Pomodoro Play
The Pomodoro technique is fairly simple. You focus on whatever task you’re doing for 25 minutes, then, you take a 5-10 minute break doing whatever you choose. Repeating this helps you fight the urge to get distracted and stay on-track. Today, we’ll be recreating this but with your play.
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9th March 2021 – Rules: Outdoors and Clothed
The weather is amazing right now, which is why today’s instructions are themed around outdoor play. As usual with rules-based instructions, I won’t be telling you exactly how to play. Instead, I’ll just be laying out some rules for you to follow during your play session, wherever and however you choose to enjoy it.
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8th March 2021 – Self-Affirmation on International Women’s Day
Happy International Women’s Day! To celebrate, today’s instructions are all about reminding yourself why you’re incredible. There’s not much to it. You can play however you choose, you just need to say each of the self-affirming phrases aloud during your play.
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6th March 2021 – Sensory Deprivation
Today’s instructions are all about removing multiple senses at once. In particular, removing your hearing and sight. Sensory deprivation is often associated with BDSM and general submission but can be enjoyed by all. The key to sensory deprivation is understanding that removing certain senses makes other sensations more intense – it allows your mind to…
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5th March 2021 – Body Appreciation
Today’s instructions are about celebrating that uniqueness by dressing up and enjoying how you look before play.
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4th March 2021 – Sexercise #2
Instead of exercising before we play, we’re going to be choosing masturbation techniques that lead to you working out as you play. Don’t worry, this is not a workout routine.
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3rd March 2021 – Rules: Pitch-Black Play
Pitch-black play is about trying to create the most naturally dark space possible where even if you open your eyes, you can barely see in front of you – without a blindfold.
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2nd March 2021 – Rules: Blindfold, Spanking and Edging
Today’s instructions are rule-based, meaning that you can play however you choose, as long as you follow the rules below.
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1st March 2021 – Shower Anal Play
Have you ever thought about trying anal but worried it might be too messy, or painful, or dirty, or just… not for you? You’re definitely not alone and the key to finding out if it is for you is to try in the most comfortable situation possible. By that, I mean trying a little anal…
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27th February 2021 – Rules: In the Sun
Today’s instructions about the outdoors. Many of us have spent the last year cooped up inside with little reason to leave. Today, we’re going to bask in the sunlight.
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26th February 2021 – Aphrodisiacs
So, we’ve all heard about aphrodisiacs and in truth, there’s not a huge amount of evidence to suggest that aphrodisiacs work how we think they do. Whilst it’s true that certain foods can improve blood flow to specific areas of the body and support arousal, there’s isn’t much to say that anything we consume is…
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24th February 2021 – Rules: Tied and Begging
Today we’re keeping things short and sweet. Nothing too complex, just a regular play session with a few rules added to make things interesting. These rules are tailored more towards submissives but can be enjoyed by anyone.
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23rd February 2021 – Creating Audio Porn
Now that we’ve tried out audio porn and experimented with how sound can impact our pleasure, it’s time to take it to the next level and create some of our own.
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22nd February 2021 – Rules: Car Play
Today, the instructions themselves are fairly simple but we’re going to try a little light exhibitionism, too – this time, in your car. At a time when many of us are stuck inside, it only makes sense for us to go out and enjoy ourselves in the best way possible (safely, of course).
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20th February 2021 – Recording Yourself 102
We already explored creating solo play videos and recording yourself. For today, we’re going to add a little more structure.
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19th February 2021 – Late Night Pleasure
The best part of the weekend is you don’t need to worry about getting up early, so, tonight you’re going to stay up a little later than usual. There’s no distinct theme we’re exploring today, it’s just about having fun with some light teasing throughout the evening and an orgasm at midnight.
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18th February 2021 – Rules: Sharing a Room
This challenge will be easy for some but difficult for others and follows an exhibitionist theme to add an element of risk. As always, if you feel uncomfortable with these instructions – don’t do them!
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17th February 2021 – Sexercise
Mind the pun. Today’s instructions focus on the impact of exercise on your libido, sex drive and arousal.
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16th February 2021 – The 5 Card Masturbation Challenge
Today’s instructions are about turning your play session into a game, adding elements of unpredictability and teasing. The core theme of this game is being adventurous and edging yourself throughout. As a result, you will need to feel a little daring before you start because you may be asked by the game to try new…
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15th February 2021 – Music
Today’s instructions are about playing with your senses. Auditory deprivation rarely involves sitting and listening to nothing (as it’s very hard to eliminate all sounds, even with headphones), so, instead, music is used to fill the void.
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14th February 2021 – Outfits
That’s what today is about. Looking and feeling sexy as you play. So, you will need a few outfits you love, your favourite toys and some time alone to get reacquainted with your body and embrace every curve and blemish. Note that there is a large teasing and edging element to this play.
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13th February 2021 – Multiple Sessions
Today’s instructions focus on masturbating to completion multiple times throughout the day and whilst the instructions for the exact way to masturbate are not strict, there are rules that you will need to follow.
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11th February 2021 – Introduction to Audio Porn
Today’s instructions are short and simple. This time, the core theme will be dirty audio and exploring how it makes you feel. Suggested websites included.
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9th February 2021 – Temperature Play Cold/Hot
There are techniques you can use to try temperature play without a partner. Primarily, by heating or cooling your sex toys. Hopefully, through these instructions, you’ll be able to explore this further.
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8th February 2021 – Shower Play
Today’s instructions focus on shower play. All you will need for these instructions is a shower, preferably with a head that allows you to change the water pressure, and some time in the bathroom alone.
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7th February 2021 – Rules: Outdoors/Window
Today’s rules focus on a theme of exhibitionism – flashing or engaging in sexual activities in a semi-public or public setting – and wearing clothing which makes you feel sexy.
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6th February 2021 – Play Throughout the Day
Today’s instructions are should be completed gradually over the course of the day, building up to a final set of instructions and an orgasm. Often, prolonged teasing and breaks between that teasing can help you reach a level of arousal that is usually impossible, amplifying the intensity and pleasure of your eventual orgasm.
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5th February 2021 – Introduction to Porn for Women
Today’s instructions follow the same, simpler format of yesterday’s and are focused on exploring the world of porn – in particular, finding porn that works for you. Female-focused porn site recommendations included.
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4th February 2021 – Rules: Mirror and No Bedroom
Today’s instructions are a little more hands-off than usual. Instead of in-depth instructions explaining exactly what you should do, today is about empowering you to play however you choose, with just a few rules to consider forcusing on clothing, setting and using a mirror.
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3rd February 2021 – Introduction to Anal Play
Today’s instructions focus on an introduction to anal play and how to explore it further through combination with regular play. For some people, anal play can lead directly to orgasms but for many, it is usually combined with other types of play to amplify sensation and create a new or more enjoyable experience.
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2nd February 2021 – Introduction to Recording Yourself
Today’s instructions focus on exploring the sexiness behind recording yourself and watching yourself masturbate – also known as mixophilia. Hopefully, you will find yourself with a hot picture set or video of yourself by the end.
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1st February 2021 – Spontaneous, Clothed Play
Today’s instructions are appropriate for all and focus on fantasies of spontaneous, clothed sex. Spontaneity can be extremely hot in the right setting and circumstance, though, those conditions are different for everyone. Before you start, begin imagining your dream spontaneous sex experience, whether that’s in public, in private or a mix of both.
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30th January 2021 – Public Transport Masturbation
Today’s instructions are for anyone travelling somewhere – especially if you are travelling on a bus or train. Public play is definitely risky but it’s also invigorating, exciting and extremely hot for many. If you want to explore public play or already know you love it, these instructions are for you.
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28th January 2021 – Vibrator Focus
Today’s instructions are tailored to vibrator owners, particularly those with larger vibrators that can be used to stimulate you as deeply as possible. Don’t forget lube if it amplifies your pleasure when you play and try not to rush – delaying your orgasm can make it even more intense and enjoyable for you.
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27th January 2021 – Spanking and Your Sex Toy
Today’s instructions are fairly simple. All you will need is a toy and enough space and privacy to spank yourself. This is suitable for all, as long as you enjoy some light to medium spanking as part of your play or would like to explore incorporating that.
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26th January 2021 – Different Types of Clit Play
Today, we will be exploring a few alternative types of clit play which you may not have tried before. The goal of these instructions is to introduce you to new things you can do with just your fingers which, hopefully, you’ll be comfortable practising and teaching to your next partner.
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24th January 2021 – Submission in the Bath with Verbalisation
Today’s instructions are tailored to those who want to explore submission slowly, without immediately being thrust into rough play. Instead, this is a more sensual approach to submission, where you will imagine you are in the bath with your dominant and they are playing with you throughout.
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23rd January 2021 – Relaxation and Massage Oil
Today’s instructions focus on relaxation, ambience and sensuality. We are going to explore these themes using massage so, you will need to acquire some if you don’t have any.
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22nd January 2021 – Outdoor Teasing and Indoor Orgasm
Today’s instructions focus on playing outside. Whilst they don’t have to be completed somewhere “risky” (though, that’s encouraged if you’d like to), masturbating in a different space can create a wildly different sensation and adrenaline rush wish should be explored.
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21st January 2021 – Tasks
Today’s instructions are different. Today, you will be playing over the course of the day, rather than all at once. These instructions are about exhibiting self-control and, just as importantly, being rewarded for your discipline with the more intense climax that always comes when you’ve spent time being teased and are even more turned on.
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20th January 2021 – Impact Play Whilst on Display
Today’s instructions are more vanilla, though, they still include some light impact play. These instructions are about exploring different positions for play and embracing the feeling of being on display.