Today’s instructions focus on an introduction to anal play and how to explore it further through combination with regular play. For a few people, anal play can lead directly to orgasms but for most, it is usually combined with other types of play to amplify sensation and create a new or more enjoyable experience.
For this introductory set of instructions, we will be using toys. You will need a butt plug and some other toy which can be inserted inside you. Don’t forget to bring lots of lube. There is no self-lubrication when it comes to anal play – use your lube generously and make sure you’re comfortable.
Rules and Information:
- You can orgasm at any time. This is not about orgasm control, it’s about exploration.
- Clean yourself before you start. It’s recommended to prepare and clean at least 45 minutes before you start your play.
- You will need lube. Lots of it. Don’t skimp on lube. Bring lots with you and use it generously.
- You will need a butt plug. There are plenty of beginner butt plugs out there, as well as larger or more exotic options for those who are more experienced. Choose the one you are comfortable with.
- You will need another type of toy. This toy will not be used for anal play, it will be reserved for clitoral and penetrative play. Remember that moving a toy from your anus to your vulva or vagina without cleaning brings a risk of infection. Be safe.
Instructions:
- Start by getting comfortable. Lay on your back and relax. Remove your clothes so that you are naked and start to warm yourself up. Let your hands explore your body without focusing on anywhere sensitive, just close your eyes and embrace the feeling of your fingertips on your skin, caressing you.
- When ready, begin to focus on your nipples. Wet your fingers with your tongue for easier movement if you choose. Trace lines around your breasts, spiralling closer and closer to your nipples until you finally reach them. Then, pinch, pull and let them slip through your fingertips naturally. Repeat this 3 times.
- With your nipples erect, begin to massage your breasts. Use the pads of your index fingers to brush over the top of each nipple as you massage, stimulating the whole of your chest. Count to 20 aloud before stopping.
- Now, use both hands to trace fingers up your thighs, brushing past and over your labia before travelling back down your thighs. Repeat this a few times, touching more and more of your labia without stimulating your clit until you’re as close as possible without touching it directly. Then, spread your labia apart and use a single finger to trace a line from your entrance up to your clit.
- Keep your labia spread as you use that single finger to lightly brush over your clit. Use the technique which you enjoy most but ensure it’s light and teasing rather than at the pressure which is most intense. Count to 20 aloud before stopping.
- Turn onto your side and bend the knee of your outer leg so that it’s easier to reach behind your and touch yourself. Then, spank yourself three times, swapping sides to spank your other three times too, before taking out your lube and covering a single finger.
- Use your lubed finger to reach behind you and begin teasing your anal opening. Don’t focus on penetration yet. Just alternate between massaging/spanking each cheek and running your lubed finger over and around your opening. Get used to the sensation of your finger being there and when ready, gently slide your fingertip in. Remember to reapply lube as needed throughout this.
- Continue this alternation until you are comfortable sliding your fingertip inside yourself – try to reach the first knuckle. Then, hold your fingertip inside yourself and use your free hand to begin playing with your clit. Find the speed and technique which works best and relax into this feeling, combining anal play with clit play. Do this for a minute or two.
- Remove your finger and lube up your butt plug. Still laying on your side, return to playing with your clit (do not use the same finger that you used for your anal play) and slowly push the tip of the plug inside your opening until it reaches the point that you were comfortable with. Then remove your plug entirely, letting the tip trace a line around your opening before you slide it back inside you, pushing a little further each time. Stop once you reach about halfway along the plug.
- Take out your toy and slide it inside you. If it is held inside you, leave it there, vibrating if possible. If not, begin to thrust it slowly and return to your plug, gently and slowly sliding it further into your opening before removing it and trying again. Get used to the sensation of it inside you and lube up regularly. Continue with this combined vaginal penetration and anal penetration until your plug is completely inside you.
- With your plug inside you, turn to a position which feels comfortable and use your toy and your fingers to play with your clit, your vulva and vagina in whatever way you choose. Ensure that you do not use the finger which you used for anal play.
- Cum whilst you are wearing your plug.