14th January 2023 – Submissive Performance
Whilst my content tends to focus on solo play, today’s instructions are designed for couples or for those who have partners they can play with.
We will not be focusing on mutual masturbation. Instead, this session will be about performative submission – playing in front of someone as a form of power play whilst exploring themes of voyeurism, obedience, and exhibitionism.
Note that whilst these instructions explore submissive themes, they can be enjoyed by couples not interested in power dynamics.
13th January 2023 – Productivity Play
I think we can all agree that sometimes play sessions start because we’re procrastinating, bored, or disengaged with whatever we’re doing. There’s nothing inherently wrong with this! That said, sometimes it’s important to avoid procrastination and actually complete the tasks we have in front of us.
Today’s instructions are about using play as a reward to improve productivity. Unlike previous instructions, today will not focus on playing whilst you complete an activity, instead, you will have to wait until you’ve finished a specific task before you play at all.
12th January 2023 – Rules: Gagged
We’re nearing 100 different instructions published and somehow, in all of that time, I’ve never mentioned gags. So, today’s the day!
Whilst these instructions are primarily targeted at submissives, those looking to experiment with submission as a fantasy or generally explore their sexuality are encouraged to give them a go.
You won’t need much, just something to use as a gag (if you don’t already own one) and enough privacy to play comfortably
11th January 2023 – Introduction to Erotic Stories
The power of the imagination is far better than any audio, photo, or video and erotic stories are great at painting a picture in your mind.
With that in mind, today’s instructions are about discovering what erotic stories are out there for you to enjoy. There is a huge variety of erotic fiction available, it just needs to be explored. Website recommendations included.
10th January 2023 – Position Training: Kneeling
Kneeling is a common position used by people throughout the kink spectrum. However, kneeling seems to hold a particular presence in BDSM, where it serves as a physical representation of the power exchange during play.
As part of this power play, many submissives – whether by their own choice or under instruction from a dominant – train how to kneel or hold other positions in the most graceful or sensual way they can. That’s what we’ll be exploring, submissive position training, with today’s position being kneeling.
9th January 2023 – Scents and Self-Care
Several recent instructions have incorporated or suggested the use of different sensual items to create an erotic atmosphere. Today’s instructions will focus on scents, particularly incense and scented candles.
You won’t need much, just a source for a sensual smell of your choice and the privacy required to enjoy that smell in a calming play session. This is a self-care exercise that incorporates a few small breathing exercises alongside clitoral play.
8th January 2023 – Rules: Asking for Permission
With rules-based sessions, I don’t tell you exactly how to play, I just give a few guidelines to follow.
Today’s session is perfect for submissives and focuses on orgasm control and submission. There is only one rule. You must ask for permission before you orgasm.
7th January 2023 – Light Dimming Play
I’m sure we can all agree that how dark a space is can have a big impact on what a play session feels like, regardless of whether playing on your own or with others. Today’s session is about exploring specifically the visual part of sensory deprivation, not through a blindfold, but through dimming your lights.
With that said, you’ll need some form of light control to complete these instructions. Don’t worry if you don’t have dimmable lights! These instructions cater to everyone’s lighting setup.
6th January 2023 – Introduction to Edging
We’ve explored elements of edging and teasing before on DEI, but today we’re going to focus on it.
If you’re unaware, edging is the act of bringing yourself close to orgasm and then backing off to prolong your play session. For many people, edging repeatedly can lead to more intense orgasms when they finally climax.
Regardless of whether you’re very accustomed to edging or it’s brand new to you, today is about exploring how edging affects your orgasms and whether it’s something you’d like to experiment with further.
5th January 2023 – Submissive Discipline: Mantra
Today, we’re focused on submission by continuing our submissive discipline series. The submissive discipline series explores ways you can incorporate submission into your solo play through strict or disciplinary tasks, sometimes as a punishment.
In these instructions, the task will be to say a submissive mantra that verbalises your submission to your dominant. You do not need a dominant present, just one in your mind. Over the course of the instructions, we will develop and verbalise submisssive phrases whilst we play before concluding with a short mantra to repeat whilst you orgasm.
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