Have you ever thought about trying anal but worried it might be too messy, or painful, or dirty, or just… not for you? You’re definitely not alone and the key to finding out if it is for you is to try in the most comfortable situation possible. By that, I mean trying a little anal play whilst masturbating.
We’ve already done an introduction to anal play but now we’re taking the next step – anal play in the shower. Playing in the shower can be fun and in particular, it can help address those anal play concerns about cleanliness. There are some essential safety and comfort points to keep in mind, though. Please read the rules!
Rules and Information:
- You can orgasm at any time. This is not about orgasm control.
- Use your favourite toys if you like. Make sure to clean them before and afterwards. Never move toys or fingers from your anus to your vulva or vagina. You’re asking for infections!
- Clean yourself before you start. You’re in the shower. Before you play, spend some time cleaning yourself and getting comfortable.
- Bring LOTS of lube and reapply it regularly. Even if you’re 100% confident, bring lube with you. There’s nothing worse than feeling in the mood and finding that you can’t play comfortably due to friction caused by the water from the shower. Water/soap are not substitutes for lube. Please remember this.
- Do not use a water-based lube. Water-based lube will wash away in the shower. Use silicone or oil-based alternatives, instead. Keep in mind that certain lubricants are not compatible with toys made from certain materials. Do your research!
- Keep an eye on your comfort. Extended periods of time in warm spaces (like the shower) can sometimes lead to light-headedness or dizziness. If at any time you begin feeling light-headed or dizzy, stop what you are doing, get out of the shower and if possible, lay down. Fainting in the shower is dangerous. Similarly, if you tend to struggle to stay upright when you orgasm, make sure that you are sitting before you do – or – leave the shower altogether to push yourself over the edge. Please, be safe.
Instructions:
- Get into the shower and set the temperature and pressure to whatever you’re used to. Soak in the water for a few minutes. Close your eyes, relax into the atmosphere and embrace the sensation of the water against your skin.
- Soap yourself up and clean yourself as you normally would. Play with yourself casually as you wash, whether that’s teasing your nipples whilst they’re soapy, massaging your breasts whilst you soak or teasing your clit between tasks.
- Once you’re clean and ready to play, focus on your nipples. Spend some rushing your fingertips over them, pinch and pulling gently. Use whatever techniques you enjoy most.
- When ready, move onto teasing your clit and your entrance. Wet your fingers or your toy with lube and use them to slowly play with yourself. Use whatever pressure and techniques feel best but don’t orgasm yet. Do this until you’re ready to try your anal session.
- Take your fingers (even if you have a toy you want to use, start with your fingers) and apply a generous amount of lube. Separately, apply more lube to your anus and use your fingers to spread it around. Focus on just doing this for now – embrace the sensation of your fingertips in that area of your body, get comfortable with it.
- When ready, begin to gently slide a finger inside you. Reapply lube whenever necessary. Start small and slow, with just your fingertip, then try pushing up to your first knuckle etc. Try pulling your finger out completely and then gently sliding it back in. Be slow at all stages. Take your time and find what works for you.
- If you have a toy, consider swapping to it now. If not, continue with your finger or fingers. Again, apply lube whenever necessary. Experiment with moving your finger inside you and how it feels to thrust it in and out of you. Find what feels good.
- Repeat whatever feels good and use your free hand (which hasn’t been around your anus at all) to play with your clit, slide into your vagina or whatever you’d like to pair with your anal play.
- Use whatever techniques you choose and orgasm.