Today, we’re going to experiment with temperature play.
You’ve probably seen all of those erotic images of people using ice cubes to tease one another and create more sensation, sometimes holding a cube in their teeth as they run it along the skin of their partner. Aside from being painful for anyone with sensitive teeth, this type of temperature play usually involves having a partner present. Similarly, wax play, where the wax of a massage candle (which are designed to burn at a lower temperature for increased comfort) is dripped onto your skin to create added warmth, is also normally a partner activity.
However, there are techniques you can use to try temperature play without a partner. Primarily, by heating or cooling your sex toys. Hopefully, through these instructions, you’ll be able to explore this further.
We’ll only be exploring one form of temperature play at a time, so, choose either hot or cold before you start. You can always return to these instructions and repeat them with the opposite option when ready.
Rules and Information:
- You can orgasm at any time. These instructions are not about orgasm control, they’re about exploration.
- You will need a toy. This can be any toy of your choice, as long as it’s not plastic (particularly if you intend to choose heat play). Glass and metal sex toys are the best for transferring temperature change but silicone toys also work. The larger the surface area of your toy, the more of it you will feel and in turn, the more intense the sensation. With that in mind, try to pick larger toys rather than small ones. Additionally, if you are using a vibrator, ensure it is waterproof before you begin.
- For heat play: you will need a kettle and a large mug or saucepan. Heat the water in the kettle and let it stand for 30 seconds to a minute, then place it in the pan or mug so that you can heat the end of your toy in the water.
- For cold play: you will need ice cubes and a large glass or bowl. Cool the water using the ice cubes and place it in the bowl or glass so that you can cool the end of your toy in the water.
- Be safe. Boiling water can scald your skin. Make sure the water is hot but not boiling when you move around with it.
Instructions:
- Begin by laying down, taking your clothes off and getting comfortable. Ensure your water and toy are nearby.
- Start in the way you should usually begin playing. Caress your body. Trace your fingertips up and down your thighs, between your legs, over your nipples and along your collarbone. Take your time building yourself up.
- When you are ready for more direct play, take your toy out of the water. If you have heated the toy, test it against your skin gently and allow it to cool if it’s too hot. Once you’ve confirmed the toy is okay, repeat your caresses but use the tip of your toy instead – this time, avoiding anywhere sensitive. Stick to your thighs and your breasts, avoiding your nipples. Close your eyes and embrace the sensation. Do this until you can feel the toy starting to return to a normal temperature, then return it to the water.
- With your toy back in the water, use your fingers to more directly stimulate yourself. Use one hand to spread your labia and the other to trace a finger from your entrance to your clit and back down again. Be slow but firm, sliding your fingertip inside yourself to help make the movement smoother with your wetness.
- After half a minute of this, move your attention to your nipples. Use the finger of one hand to continue with slow, purposeful play between your legs and let the other begin to lightly pinch and pull on your nipples, flicking over them with the pad of your finger. Do this until both of your nipples are erect and you would like to experiment more.
- Stop everything and remove your toy from the water, testing its temperature to ensure it’s okay. Again, use it to caress your skin but this time, focus more heavily on where you are sensitive. Start by using the tip to circle your erect nipples, using your free hand to continue your slow, purposeful play between your legs. Then, after 30 seconds or so, swap. Move your toy to tease your entrance and stimulate your clit whilst your hand plays with your breasts in whatever way feels best. If you are using a vibrator, turn the vibration up to a low level for added stimulation.
- From here, you can choose two options. Either slide your toy inside you and play with your clit in the way you enjoy most, eventually orgasming, or keep your toy outside and use it to stimulate your clit directly.
- Orgasm.